By now you probably know my content is inspired by the word, sermons, music and LOVE. Today is no different, I listened to Steven Furtick a month ago, the title of his sermon was: “I know how this story ends” if you are interested in searching for it after the read click on the link (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54jgesZlCQ8) .He was speaking about the distractions David faced before facing Goliath.

1 Samuel 17 verse 28:“When Eliab, David’s oldest brother, heard him speaking with the men, he burned with anger at him and asked, “Why have you come down here? And with whom did you leave those few sheep in the wilderness? I know how conceited you are and how wicked your heart is; you came down only to watch the battle. Now what have I done?” said David. “Can’t I even speak?” He then turned away to someone else and brought up the same matter, and the men answered him as before.”

If David had chosen to entertain his brother, the story of David and Goliath would have ended differently. Steven Furtick says “Some of us are fighting what we are supposed to be fighting for”. I realised that sometimes I also fall for the trap of fighting the distraction.

So recently I have been angry with my brother for making wrong choices and stressing my parents but what I didn’t realise was that in my anger and frustration I was distracted from fighting the real enemy; who in this case is the devil who wants his life.

This happens a lot in marriage, where most of the time when you are meant to be praying for your partner and standing in agreement against  the real challenge. There is something that will pop into your mind to remind you how he “never” buys you gifts anymore, and how he doesn’t even look at you the way he used to when you first met. You will find a valid reason to be angry and unresponsive while they are busy fighting the real challenge of temptation, greed, insecurity, fear etc. all by themselves. So instead of praying with him you add to the list of the prayer points.

Am I saying you must not communicate your wishes and dissatisfaction? No not at all.

What I am saying is remember who the real enemy is. Look at marriage between a man and a woman as something that glorifies God, raising principled and loved children who will do the same for the next generation, goes against the plan the enemy has of broken families and broken societies.There is no question about it he is your number one enemy not your wife and not your husband.

These days society teaches our children that marriage is an archaic institution that enslaves you. Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way suggesting it is a fairy tale but when done God’s way it is the closest thing we have to heaven. The freedom to love  without fear, raising your blessings in a loving environment that gives them freedom to be who they are, is a beautiful thing. Moreover, marriage represents the unity between Christ and the church, it is a story of a groom who is always in pursuit of her bride, lovingly inspiring her to be the best version of herself. This is the kind of love that cost Him His life.

A glorious marriage is not one without challenges but one that declares that despite all the challenges we still choose each other. Failure of marriages in society is an underlying declaration that the concept of Christianity is impossible. I know it sounds like a lot of pressure but God has given you all you need to have a blessed union with Him at in the centre of it all.

Distractions usually come just before you take down the Goliath in your life, they come looking like the problem but they are not the real problem. Fighting the distraction is a waste of time  as it does not deal with the real enemy. Know and recognize the real fight you need to be waging. And be rest assured that you will not know the real enemy when you are busy arguing with your spouse instead of praying and asking for God’s perspective on the matter.

I am not saying don’t cry or acknowledge your pain, all I’m saying is take it to Him. I remember many years ago Khomotso Thwala taught on Revelations  4 which says“Come up here, and I will show you what must take place after this.”  There is power in looking at things from God’s view. David didn’t say I can defeat this challenge because I am strong, skilled etc, instead he said I come to you in the name of the Lord .

Sometimes we want to face Goliath with our own strength, deal with your spouse the way your friend dealt with her theirs. Note that David knew whose battle it was and I have good news for you: “an attack on marriage is war against God”. He is already fighting for you so why not consult Him and do what He says, though it may look and sound weak to others.

The God of heaven gave you that husband or wife and only He can help you keep him, not your sister, best friend or mother Only God. So recently when I was fasting I had a dream Sweet-One was drowning and I was going down with him. I quickly realized what was happening and started pulling him up  😆 What I didn’t realize is that I was physically pulling him up while sleeping, he woke up and asked what’s up and I said you are drowning.

The Bible says two is better than one because one is able to lift up another when they fall.Sometimes this will happen without you even realizing it because she or he seems fine. When we choose not to focus on the distractions God will reveal that you need to pull him or her up in the spirit and not focus on what you see with your eyes.

Our marriages are blessed.

Our marriages are ordained by God.

Our marriages will survive the distractions.

Our marriages will fulfill the plan God had in mind.

With love