I have been meaning to write for a while now but motherhood has had me questioning myself a lot lately. Look, I don’t doubt that I’m a good mother because that’s one of the few things I can confidently say that God blessed me with; the ability to patiently nurture and love my children! But rest assured that, that does not mean I do not have moments when I wonder if I am truly cut out for this “mom life”. Quick update; the Cele munchkins have recently joined a new school, we had been on the waiting list since 2018 so we were very excitedRead More →

So a year ago , on the  7th of January 2019 we met Nokuthula she has since become Phopho and Thando’s aunty . She is a part of our family not because we have dinner with her and sleep under the same roof but she is family because we love her and want the best for her and the feeling is mutual. She  feels pain when my kids are sick, she shows them affection and they miss her when she is off. When we dropped her off on the 14 December 2019 my daughter cried and my mom said  “Thando can’t imagine her family withoutRead More →

So we left a week earlier than normal for December holidays in Port Shepstone due to a funeral we had to attend. I was never ready for what was about to happen 🤦🏾‍♀️my Thando who is now 2 years old could not speak last time we took a trip down to the South Coast. This time around she was very vocal, she started off telling us how sore her bum bum was from traveling then she made us take extra stops for the toilet because she needs to pee in the toilet even when I had given her permission to pee on her nappy (I knowRead More →

All parents have experienced it, the moment when you think “I’m not getting up this time he or she must go” lol. So in my house winter means cold nights, humidifier, nebuliser and waking up tired. This year is no different, we are trusting God that it will be better than last winter because they are older and hopefully soon we will not have this kind of challenge. So even though we have been going through this for four winters since Phopho was born and of cause second winter with Thando just took it to another level of exhaustion because when one realizes one isRead More →

Guys weaning a baby of breast milk is hard  😥 I breastfed our firstborn for about 17 months, the plan was to stop at 2 years, but he started wanting the boob and nothing else so had to stop. It was hard, but I think it was better than how I ended things with Thando our second born  😥  😥 .  Sipho was already used to feeding only at night so supply had gone down so we skipped the painful engorgement. It took about three to five days to introduce a substitute.  My sweet boy genuinely sympathized with me pain, I told him I hadRead More →

I recently went to a baby shower for one of the ladies who welcomed me at my husband’s church five years ago and my spiritual home now. She was not a mother nor a wife at the time but she did not see that as a barrier for us  😀 I remember thinking one day when I get an opportunity to shower her, I pray God gives me the strength to do so. And I was not the only one who felt that way, her shower was beautiful and a lot of people came to celebrate her. I was asked to say something about motherhood fromRead More →

I recently went on a spa treatment with two of my friends and mom guilt came up. For those who are not familiar with the concept urban dictionary describes it as the guilt a mother feels anytime she takes time to do something for herself, outside of work, that does not involve her children. It is real. It exists, and my friends and I were talking about how it affects us making time for ourselves. The truth is there will always be things to buy for the house, and  do for the family. As women it is in our nature to give and prioritise theRead More →

As May draws to an end, I would like to reflect on motherhood and how it has changed me. I am a mother, I have a mother and she also has a mother, point is there is no human being without a mother. Whether or not you have a good relationship with her is a topic for another day. Since I became a mother I have been amazed at the depth of love I have for my munchkins and children in general. So my friend Dorcas says I was motherly even before I was a mother I am not quite sure what that means but IRead More →

So, I wanted to post this on workers’ day but I couldn’t the kids kept me busy, and I was praying that my current nanny comes back from the long weekend so I can reassure myself that I am not a horrible employer.Okay, let me start at the beginning so you understand why I was starting to think I am horrible employer. Our mothers took care of us with the help of family (grandmother/aunts/sisters)or no help at all. So we look back and wonder how they did it. There are advantages and disadvantages to that. The advantage is that you know the people taking careRead More →

When I was pregnant with our first child I was surprised just how quick the conversation shifted from me to my belly, in fact most people just jumped to wow your belly is so big or you are a shade darker. I made peace with it and told myself people are just excited and they were expressing this, by giving me advice; from what I should wear, eat and even when I should sleep. I didn’t think it could get worse, then I had the baby 🙆🏾. Being a first time mom you already have enough doubts and  you take whatever advice you get, untilRead More →

To my baby The one thing we pray for, is that we do not give you a childhood you will need to recover from when you older. In the past 2 years, I have learnt that every parent loves their child regardless of how they choose to treat them or show that love. As a parent my first point of reference is your gogo (grandma) and mkhulu (grandad) and like it or not my parenting style is influenced by what I have seen them do. Although your grandparents meant well, I will not apply everything I saw them do and I’m sure they said theRead More →

Dear daughter I love your soft curly hair, soft skin, the precious smile especially when you are asleep. I even love the way you smell. Bala izibusiso zakho zonke ungasoli qha(count your all your blessings and don’t complain ) Every morning I look into your eyes, I am reminded of God’s faithfulness and unfailing love for us. Newborns are precious,  sweet and vulnerable they are proof that God trusts human beings. Being trusted with a fragile baby to nurture and love is a privilege that we are eternally grateful for. We have been going through some challenges as a family and your arrival has givenRead More →