So I recently wrote about (why we need time away) to reconnect with our spouses and it got me thinking about what happens when you lose connection. One of my friends commented on the post and this is what she said “by that time, it may just be too late to fix things because you both would have learnt to survive without each other.” This disturbed me so much I just had to write this post, most of us wonder when things changed but the reality is that it is not one event but a series of days, months and even years which led toRead More →

By now you probably know my content is inspired by the word, sermons, music and LOVE. Today is no different, I listened to Steven Furtick a month ago, the title of his sermon was: “I know how this story ends” if you are interested in searching for it after the read click on the link ( .He was speaking about the distractions David faced before facing Goliath. 1 Samuel 17 verse 28:“When Eliab, David’s oldest brother, heard him speaking with the men, he burned with anger at him and asked, “Why have you come down here? And with whom did you leave those few sheepRead More →

Two years ago on our anniversary I was in a maternity ward with our two days old daughter Thandolwethu, needless to say it was not the romantic  anniversary we had hoped for but it was a special one. The best gift to celebrate four years of marriage. The maternity ward anniversary taught me to never take for granted the freedom(we have)to choose how we celebrate our anniversary, because for the first time I had no choice but to be at the hospital. The year before that I just breastfeeding our first born at least so I had more flexibility in my choices, not a weekRead More →

So one morning Aisha who has been married for 2 years now, sent me a message after I wrote something on my whatsApp status about not hardening your heart because its not healthy and this is what she said ” dear friend, please consider writing a story on the difficult parts of marriage…it will be a blessing to us ”. I must admit I was surprised by the request, not because I never experience challenges in marriage. I just have a different perspective on things. I am a glass half full kinder person, I don’t dwell  on the missing half but on the half thatRead More →

So listening to Michelle Obama made me think about equality and  what it means for marriage.  I immediately remembered a sermon about how in the beginning God created “them”(male and female) in his image. You can read it for yourself in Genesis 5 verse 2. What is it that Michelle said? in essence she was saying how important it is to be a team player and push the other partner to be better and do better. And that we must be careful of not to settle with people who will not call us out when we are wrong, that person maybe easier to deal withRead More →

Live in the moment – It sounds like something you have heard a motivational speakers say, right? something out of a  psychology book. Because if you do that you will have fewer regrets and worries. But what does this mean for your marriage or relationship? In the few years, I have been married to Sweet-One I have experienced all kinds of emotions. I would be lying if I said there have not been moments when I felt like screaming at him or wondering how could you do or say that? I have felt it all and I am sure I am still going to feelRead More →

All parents have experienced it, the moment when you think “I’m not getting up this time he or she must go” lol. So in my house winter means cold nights, humidifier, nebuliser and waking up tired. This year is no different, we are trusting God that it will be better than last winter because they are older and hopefully soon we will not have this kind of challenge. So even though we have been going through this for four winters since Phopho was born and of cause second winter with Thando just took it to another level of exhaustion because when one realizes one isRead More →

“Lets talk about sex baby….” Being the only girl, and raised by  christian parents, saying my relationship with sex is complicated would be an understatement. Everything I learnt about the subject was from friends, television, books, and of course my friend google. I remember when I was 13 and I had my first period, the first things my mom said to me is that I must stay away from boys basically if I don’t stay away from them, I will have a baby. You can imagine how scared I was, so instead of  embracing puberty I was traumatised by it, if anything it was aRead More →

February is the one month where romance is the number one topic whether you are a romantic or not, it is in your face and we are forced to have a position about it. Some go to an extent of giving us the history of  Valentino and others feel the need to explain why they do not celebrate. So one of the ladies from mzansi wives as the name suggests the group is for married ladies, asked my thoughts on the romance topic and so I thought I should share with you. The first think that came to mind was who set the standard forRead More →

New year’s  eve I took Thandolwethu to my mother’s place because Sweet-One and I desperately needed to Dezemba even if it’s just for one night ( for those who don’t know what to Dezemba means , it is alot of things to different people but for the purpose of this post it means have reckless fun like we don’t have responsibilities  😆 ). On our way there she was napping and I realized how quiet it was because Phopho was not in the car. Then I said to Sweet-One I can’t believe we ever complained about exhaustion when we had one child 🤷🏽‍♀️and we laughed about it. NowRead More →

So, a day after date night I posted a video of myself singing “ngikuthandile by Vusi Nova” yes I can hold a note   😉 dedicated to the Sweet-One of course. I received feedback from friends who were surprised that married people sing to one another. In my ideal world couples freely express their love for one another without any fear, because “perfect love casts out all fear” 1 John 4:18. I decided to write this post because we all need to be reminded about why its important to date your spouse. Hopefully when you done reading this you will write a letter,sing a song or planRead More →

Oh how I love spring beautiful flowers, rain, sunshine and warmth everything about this season is wonderful. It is a physical reminder of the seasons in our lives that come and go, winter seemed like it was going to last forever especially when you have a toddler who catches a cold every now and again. But guess what? it didn’t last forever and spring is here and it will also not last forever. It has to make way for summer. The trick is not to get too attached to the season as it is just passing by, we must learn from it and prepare ourselvesRead More →

Today I’m tackling the contentious subject of submission. Most ladies cringe when the topic of submission comes up, mainly because the 21st century woman believes submission made sense in the 1600s. Back then, the man was the only one bringing the bacon home and therefore, he made all the decisions and she simply followed. The question is,  can the modern  wife  submit to her husband even if she is able top pay the mortgage herself? My answer is a definite YES. Submission is not something you do because…It is something we do because God commands us to. This topic came up when I told myRead More →