“Our small car”, that’s what Phopho calls our Run-X. And this Saturday morning when he went to the garage he noticed that the car was not there and he asked, “Mama, where is the small car?” I struggled to answer him because I also didn’t know, soI muttered something like: “it was taken,” “by whom?” he asked “tsotsis” I said, but quickly realized he (had) no idea what I was talking about. I ended up resorting to “the bad guys” but he thought I meant Batman the superhero 🙄  I eventually gave up and left the explaining to daddy. Yes, that’s what I do I  leaveRead More →

“I keep fighting voices in my mind that say I’m not enough Every single lie that tells me I will never measure up Am I more than just the sum of every high and every low? Remind me once again just who I am, because I need to know (ooh oh) You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing You say I am strong when I think I am weak You say I am held when I am falling short When I don’t belong, oh You say that I am Yours And I believe (I), oh I believe (I) What You sayRead More →

I recently went on a spa treatment with two of my friends and mom guilt came up. For those who are not familiar with the concept urban dictionary describes it as the guilt a mother feels anytime she takes time to do something for herself, outside of work, that does not involve her children. It is real. It exists, and my friends and I were talking about how it affects us making time for ourselves. The truth is there will always be things to buy for the house, and  do for the family. As women it is in our nature to give and prioritise theRead More →

On 22 August 2017 , the former statistician-general Pali Lehohla released the latest report of Poverty Trends in South Africa. This depressing report got me thinking about how our environment can lead to a never ending cycle of poverty. The report reveals that the victims of poverty in South Africa are children aged 17 years and younger, black Africans, females, those with little or no education and people in rural areas. And the most affected provinces are the Eastern Cape and Limpopo. While poverty is highest amongst children (aged 0–17), poverty levels tend to drop as they reach productive/working age and only starts to increaseRead More →

When it’s family, you forgive them for they know not what they do When it’s family, you accept them, ’cause you have no choice but to When it’s family, they’re a mirror of the worst and best in you And they always put you to the test And you always try to do your best And just pray for God to do the rest, when it’s family Some are preachers, some are gay Some are addicts, drunks and strays But not a one is turned away, when it’s family Some are lucky, others ain’t Some are fighters, others faint Winners, losers, sinners, saints, it’s allRead More →

When a child is born the family rejoices and they anticipate the wonderful things they will do in this world. We know God saw a challenge on earth and he decided to send that specific person to bring a solution. When we start seeing their personalities we appreciate that they are not like their siblings and we celebrate it. Somewhere between creche and high school the panel beating takes place. When a child expresses themselves through drawings instead of singing then we scold them for that decision. When you raise your hand in class, they say you think you are better than everyone. It isRead More →

I read an article about the lion mama’s concern for her daughter , “she is not the person I know her to be” that is the title of the article. I could not help but get emotional at the thought of the pain she must be going through because her daughter is in pain. What concerned me the most was the fact that the mother was not the person she was before the incident either. We call her lion mama, but she woke up on that day without any intention of becoming a murderer. She was a simple mother, probably going about her business tryingRead More →